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We Can’t Have It All!

I’ve been absent from the blog for a few weeks now and I apologize for that. We’ve been traveling both for my husband’s business and we also went on a road-trip to look for new items for our Yours For Your Day rentals inventory.

Vintage French Wash Stand
My favorite road-trip find: a vintage french wash stand!

I share something in common with our clients who are planning their events and are completely overwhelmed with all of the choices out there! I absolutely love vintage, weathered, salvaged, rusty & crusty stuff!  And while there’s a whole lotta stuff out there that is wonderful, most of it is just not quite right for our rentals inventory!

Like so many, I also spend a lot of time wandering through Pinterest, various blogs, Facebook posts and tweets looking for all of those amazing “just right” details.

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Rustic Table Decor

 

 

Just like our clients who are trying to decide on what they want their big event to look like and the experience they want for their guests, I too am always in the process of evaluating what I want my curated collection to look like and what I want my clients to experience when working with
Yours For Your Day.

So here’s what I do to narrow down the details as I’m adding to my inventory and If you are planning for a big event, you too can use this exercise:

 

 

 

 

Make a list of all of  the things that are most important to you for your big day. Is it the food, the decor (my personal favorite), the music, the cake, your photos?  Then incorporate those priorities into your desired guest experiences. What do you want your guests to “take away” from each of those aspects of your event? Now take all of those details you’ve been dreaming of and utterly bombarded by, and decide what best fits into your newly incorporated list of priorities. If something doesn’t “fit”, get it off your list. Continue to whittle away at the list until you have aligned all of the “just right” details with your priorities and then focus on making just those details come to life.  Oh, and stop looking for new details after that, you’ll drive yourself crazy!

Possum Belly Table
Ah, there’s more of those “just right” details! Southwest Boho Chic Shoot (See Credits Below)

Anyhow, I thought I would share with you today just a bit of my challenge and how I  go about setting goals for creating my collection of eclectic rentals and how to best meet the expectations of my clients. I hope that you may be able to apply some of what I’ve learned, to planning for your event because… we really are in this together!

Back soon,
Shelley

Southwest Boho Chic Inspiration Shoot:
Photography:  Laura Smith Photography
Styling: Prive Events
Vintage Rentals: Yours For Your Day
Flowers: Bailey’s Blooms
Cake: D’s Sweet Addiction

 

 

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Watch Out For The DIY Bug!

DIY (Do It Yourself) weddings are popular, and for good reason. Luckily, many of today’s trends are focused on rustic and hand-made themes so it’s easy to take-on much of the decor and details yourself, either for budget reasons or just a desire to add a personal touch to the day.

But careful…

Large Rustic Decor

DIY could just as easily stand for “Don’t Implode Yourself” when you try to DIY every detail of the wedding! Your time and effort are worth something; definitely worth their weight in gold when demand on your time is at its highest! All of those really easy DIY projects that you see on Pinterest can sneak up on you and cause you stress during the later stages of your planning. If you’re stressed, you won’t be able to truly enjoy the planning process and even worse, all of that stress may spill over into your big day.  And that would be a bummer!

So it may seem like you only have two options when planning for your wedding; DIY to save money and add a personal touch or “acquire” everything and save on time, effort & stress.

Or… find a happy medium!

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Here’s an exercise for you: go out to Craigslist and search “wedding decor” for your area.  You will undoubtedly see several listings for people who are trying to sell all of their DIY decor from their recent weddings. Two things to take-away from this exercise: if you find a match to your theme, you can purchase the details at a discount from someone else who has already invested all of that time and effort to make them, yay! Or, if you do tackle all of your own DIY decor, you now know that you can go to Craigslist to get rid of everything after the wedding! (Unless you want to find valuable storage space in your home to store all of those lovely details!)

Smart Alternatives: plan for DIY details that you can use around the home or garden after the wedding or give yourself a break and rent details from someone like Yours For Your Day!  (less expensive than purchasing and yes, that was a shameless plug for our company!)

Rusty Bike

 

My message is this: don’t short-change the value of your time and effort when deciding on your decor.  Please don’t get me wrong, I love DIY weddings.  Our wedding was completely DIY and we loved every aspect of planning for our special day, but it was also a very small and intimate event, so the details were completely manageable.

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 If you have been bitten by the DIY bug, just go into your planning with eyes wide open and you’ll be fine.  Fully and honestly evaluate your available time and personal skill set.  And don’t beat yourself up if you decide you may not be up for the challenge of a full DIY event.  Pat yourself on the back for being smart and savvy enough to respect and honor your limitations! You can always pick a few projects that mean the most to you like guest favors, aisle decor, or the guest book and then rent or purchase the other details. You’ll still get the same DIY feel to your themed event, but without all of the stress and investment of your precious time!

Back soon,
Shelley

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Perfection…Let It Go!

Rustic Reception Tables
Ah, perfection. It’s what everyone wants when planning a social event, right? And I imagine that for some, planning a great little dinner party, the perfect first birthday party, or the best wedding ever, may come easy. If you are one of those talented and gifted individuals who can take it all in stride and pull together a fabulous soiree without a worry,  then today’s post may not be for you. But if you’re like me, and planning an event is a bit more challenging for you, then please read on!

I will be the first to admit that in the past, I was sometimes a bit crippled socially because of my ridiculous drive for perfection. Preparing the perfect food, having my house looking just perfect, saying the perfect things, even wearing the perfect clothes. All of this focus on being perfect, caused me anxiety when I had an upcoming event to attend or plan for. Can anyone else relate to this? Because sometimes, I thought I was the only one that felt that way. Ironically, it is that same attention to detail that now helps me to excel in my business. Working with someone else on their big day; piece of cake! Planning my own event; panic!

 

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Well fortunately, I have learned to relax a bit. Awhile back, I developed an interest in painting furniture and it sounds silly, but during my discovery of this creative outlet I learned to embrace imperfection! The particular style of painted furniture that I prefer and the materials that I use to create that look is what has finally helped me to accept that something can be wonderful without being perfect.  And that imperfection is actually just “character.”  And I’m happy to say I can now apply this lesson learned to other aspects of life as well. Even to how I view myself as a person.

I also remind myself that I’m the only one that has that vision of “perfection” in my head when I’m planning for something.  I’m the only one that knows exactly how something is “supposed” to be in the end.  Other people just see the finished product and are never measuring me against the ridiculous standards I set for myself.  So I’ve learned to let it go! (okay, yeah cue the Frozen song!)

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So if you’ve ever struggled with this issue or you’re dealing with it now as you plan for a wedding or big celebration, just accept that you can never control every aspect of the day, ever. From the very start of your planning phase, learn to embrace the fact that nothing is ever going to be perfect and it’s okay! Plan wholeheartedly, put “yourself” into it and the results will be wonderful and full of “character.”  The sooner we are all able to release that vision of “ideal”, the more enjoyable and fulfilling the event, that piece of furniture, or life will be!

Back Soon!
Shelley

 

These Are The Days!

Hi there!  For #TBT (Throw Back Thursday for anyone like me still learning about #’s in general), I wanted to share an important lesson learned specific to planning an event, or in my case it was my first wedding 30 years ago.  Gasp…30 years?

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So yeah, that’s obviously not me 30 years ago (can’t remember where pictures are packed away from “that” wedding!)  I was so young and naive, as was my husband.  We had no clue what we were getting into, and obviously I used the word first wedding so we all know the ending to that story.  But I don’t regret the relationship because it shaped both of us and has allowed us to truly appreciate our current marriages and the two amazing people we have in our lives now.  So I’m thankful…but that’s not really what I wanted to talk about.

In the “old” days, weddings were somehow more simple.  Thirty years ago there were colors to decide on, flowers, a dress, a cake, venue, and music; same as today.  But not much more.  You had the standard guest book with a feathered pen (yes, feathered), a cake with many tiers and doves (so many doves), bows everywhere and things to figure out like “what is the correct order in which your wedding party stands in the receiving line?”  What’s a receiving line some of you may ask?  You’ll have to “Google” it!  Fun times…

Old School Cake Cutting

Today couples and planners have a bit more daunting task in planning the perfect event.  Now you want your wedding to be the most unique and unforgettable experience ever and hear nothing but “this is the best wedding I’ve ever been to” remarks. It’s that attention to detail that allows us to do what we do at Yours For Your Day and we love being a part of that process!

My wedding day on September 19, 1984 was a complete and utter blur!  I really don’t remember much and it’s not because it was 30 years ago or because there was drinking involved!  It was a blur the very next day.  Even with the reduced number of details to plan for back then, I was exhausted by our wedding day.  We had a large wedding and honestly, I didn’t even know most of our guests and for that matter, neither did my husband.  We went through all of the mandated motions of the day and before we could even get a bite to eat during the reception, the day had come and gone!

(Warning: drinking too much on your special day will definitely cause a blur!)

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So, if you haven’t heard this advice yet, you’ll hear it now, and you’ll hear it again from others, I’m sure:  take time to enjoy every aspect of your planning for this huge day in your life!  Try not to lose sight of what the day is all about.  Take time on the day of your wedding to just stop and soak it all in.  Embrace the moments when you can just reflect on marrying your best friend, your soul mate, your love.

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Photo Credit: adwriter via Compfight cc

Nothing else matters, no details, no guest experience, nothing!  And as long as you can keep the “purpose” front and center in everything you do, everything else is just fluff!  So take a deep breath and breathe it all in every step of the way.  Because these are the days, the ones you’ll want to remember forever!

Take care, back soon!

Shelley

P.S. I got it right the second time around; more on that in a future post 😉